Life Without a Recipe

A Memoir of Food and Family

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Pub Date Apr 18 2016 | Archive Date Mar 31 2016

Description

On one side, there is Grace: prize-winning author Diana Abu-Jaber’s tough, independent sugar-fiend of a German grandmother, wielding a suitcase full of holiday cookies. On the other, Bud: a flamboyant, spice-obsessed Arab father, full of passionate argument. The two could not agree on anything: not about food, work, or especially about what Diana should do with her life. Grace warned her away from children. Bud wanted her married above all—even if he had to provide the ring. Caught between cultures and lavished with contradictory “advice” from both sides of her family, Diana spent years learning how to ignore others’ well-intentioned prescriptions. Hilarious, gorgeously written, poignant, and wise, Life Without a Recipe is Diana’s celebration of journeying without a map, of learning to ignore the script and improvise, of escaping family and making family on one’s own terms. As Diana discovers, however, building confidence in one’s own path sometimes takes a mistaken marriage or two—or in her case, three: to a longhaired boy-poet, to a dashing deconstructionist literary scholar, and finally to her steadfast, outdoors-loving Scott. It also takes a good deal of angst (was it possible to have a serious writing career and be a mother?) and, even when she knew what she wanted (the craziest thing, in one’s late forties: a baby!), the nerve to pursue it. Finally, fearlessly independent like the Grace she’s named after, Diana and Scott’s daughter Gracie will heal all the old battles with Bud and, like her writer-mom, learn to cook up a life without a recipe.

On one side, there is Grace: prize-winning author Diana Abu-Jaber’s tough, independent sugar-fiend of a German grandmother, wielding a suitcase full of holiday cookies. On the other, Bud: a...


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Advance Praise

"She describes her relationships with wonderful levity, but Abu-Jaber also allows space for complexity, conflict, and uncertainty. She offers us an intimate seat at her family table as we watch her learn to navigate life on her own terms ... Abu-Jaber renders her relationships to both food and family in rich, joyful detail." - Booklist

“This bold, luscious memoir is both recollection and guide. Brimming with great meals and family struggle, it walks a path between cultural traditions and American individualism. A vivid story of one writer’s journey to build a creative life, one lived ‘without recipes,’ this book will be indispensable to anyone trying to forge their own truer path.” - Ruth Reichl

“Wonderfully written, honest, funny, and deeply heart-touching, Diana Abu-Jaber’s memoir is a joyous read that speaks to the creative spirit in us all.” - Heidi W. Durrow, New York Times best-selling author of The Girl Who Fell from the Sky

Life Without a Recipe is filled with visceral joys and literary beauty as well as soulful honesty and a gripping story. Diana Abu-Jaber writes trenchantly and gorgeously about family, marriage, and motherhood with insights and connections that feel hard-won and richly earned. Her sharp intelligence and unsparing self-knowledge bristle on every page alongside her passionate brio for life in all its flavors and complexities.” - Kate Christensen, author of Blue Plate Special and The Great Man

"She describes her relationships with wonderful levity, but Abu-Jaber also allows space for complexity, conflict, and uncertainty. She offers us an intimate seat at her family table as we watch her...


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Gorgeous. I spent so much time highlighting sentences. This is one of my favorite short lines. "Advice is offered like food from the hand- a loving, unwanted gift." It tickled me because I think of all the advice women have fed me and being that my grandmother was a Hungarian immigrant- I had so much food forced on me, just as full on that as advice. I admit, I was expecting non-stop kitchen stories and this is not that type of book. It is a journey- every bit of her from her limbs to her soul pulled in many directions, exceeding expectations, loving and aching, losing and gaining- the recipe for a life. Her honesty into her marriages who refreshing. Particularly this "Though I'd already half-guessed it, already half-involved with someone else myself, I felt clobbered, a frying pan to the gut." She admits her own imperfections and regales us with stories about food and family, the connections it has to memories fond and otherwise. If her fiction reads anything like her memoir, I am on board! It has moments of heartbreak and beauty, laughter and joy, family- always family. I adored it.

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“ Life Without a Recipe” is a heart-felt, delicious, and beautifully written memoir about Diana Abu-Jaber’s unconventional journey to find her own way in the world. Despite conflicting family traditions, culture, and advice, she was determined to escape the “recipes” of her family and create a new path. A major component of this journey, one which took her by surprise, was her decision to become a mother. The adoption of Gracie brought some magical and unexpected ingredients to her new “life without a recipe,” but also created unanticipated and wonderful new connections with her family.

My review was posted on Goodreads on 4/20/16.

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