Respected at work. Disconnected at home?

You're good at what you do, and people count on you. But the skills that built your career don't always work at home. Maybe nothing is wrong, exactly. Maybe you're just aware, in a way you can't quite name, that the man your family gets isn't the man you want to be.

You are not a bad man. But you shape the emotional climate of your home more than anyone ever told you. Your steadiness and your moods, your presence and your absence: your family lives inside all of it. You set the weather in your home whether you mean to or not. This book shows you how to do it on purpose.

Drawing on more than twenty years of coaching parents and seventeen years as a psychotherapist working with couples, Todd Sarner lays out a path in five stages: seeing the patterns that cost you closeness, learning to stay steady when the people you love can't, becoming a husband she can trust, becoming a father your children can lean on, and learning to repair, with other men beside you.

Along the way you'll meet men who may feel familiar: the father who goes quiet when things get hard, the man keeping a private score of everything he gives. Their stories are composites drawn from years of clinical and coaching work, and they show what it looks like when a man starts to change how he shows up.

Whether you're married, separated or co-parenting, the work is the same. Every chapter ends with one honest question and one move to make that week. The work is on your side only, and it starts with how you walk through the door tonight.