"In a vivid, meticulously-reported and unflinchingly honest way, Martin describes choosing a school for her eldest daughter in progressive Oakland and navigating both unconscious and explicit biases that force her to confront her privileges and fight against them. In the end, she concludes that the main barriers to true integration in public schools are well-meaning white mothers—without finger-pointing or absolving herself as a white savior." — Oprah Daily

“Writing with equal passion as a journalist and a mother, Courtney Martin interrogates the history and the moral contradictions of “elite parenting,” gentrification, and school choice. She lives the question of how to chart a new way forward with her daughter in their neighborhood. This is a kind of modeling our society needs – as openly messy as the work of remaking our world.” — Krista Tippett, host of On Being and author of Becoming Wise

“White parents want to be instruments of change, yet don’t want our own children to 'suffer.' We want to raise anti racists, yet segregate our kids in 'good' schools dominated by families that look like us. Courtney Martin wrestles with all of these hopes and conundrums in ways that are personal, heartfelt and, especially now, profoundly necessary.” — Peggy Orenstein, author of Girls & Sex and Boys & Sex

“This is the story of what school segregation, a nationally important issue, looks like through the lens of one family’s experience.” — Lit Hub

“There is so much love in these pages. Courtney’s capacity to empathize with and challenge White parents’ notions of what is best for our children and our communities is what makes this book so compelling and necessary right now. She’s a master at calling out our bullshit while still calling us together.” — Whitney Kimball Coe, Vice President at Center for Rural Strategies