Always There, Always Gone
A Daughter's Search for Truth
by Marty Ross-Dolen
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Pub Date May 06 2025 | Archive Date Not set
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Description
In 1960, six years before Marty Ross-Dolen was born, her maternal grandparents were killed in an airline disaster involving the collision of two commercial jets over New York City. They were traveling from Columbus, Ohio, to seek placement for their family’s iconic magazine, Highlights for Children, on the newsstands. Their daughter—Marty’s mother—was fourteen years old at the time. This genre-bending memoir tells Marty’s story of being raised by a mother in protracted mourning.
The fragmented narrative explores Marty’s journey, from personal ways of coping as a child to the evolution of a mother-daughter relationship that matured over time. It is also about her longing to know her maternal grandmother, and through saved letters and photographs from her grandmother’s life, she enters a fantastical relationship that serves to replace one that otherwise could never exist. Ultimately it is about the discovery of truth, in unearthing the story of her grandparents’ deaths and her mother’s acute loss, in freeing her grandmother’s image from the weight of a tragic death, and in Marty’s own delivery from darkness. Beyond that, it is about universal life choices, the ways human beings unknowingly determine their destinies, and the healing powers of truth and love.
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Advance Praise
“… a touching memoir … showcases some of the many complexities of loss … a skillfully written work.”—Kirkus Reviews
“A tragic accident, an inherited trauma, a fierce desire to protect. These are the threads Marty Ross-Dolen weaves in Always There, Always Gone. Searching for a grandmother she never knew, Ross-Dolen forges connections between three generations—grandmother, mother, daughter—in this wise and moving memoir. Innovative in its approach, Always There, Always Gone reminds us of the resilience of the human spirit and the ties that bind.”—Lee Martin, author of the Pulitzer Prize Finalist, The Bright Forever
“Reading Always There, Always Gone is an immersive, mesmerizing experience. It’s been a while since I read a story that so completely pulled me in. With striking, fresh metaphors and carefully crafted sentences, the writing tugged on every fiber of my mother-being. Days after closing this haunting memoir, I was in a daze, feeling very much like a time traveler returning to the present. Marty Ross-Dolen’s powerful words and this book will always be with me.”—Christine French Cully, Editor-in-Chief, Highlights for Children, and Author of Dear Highlights: What Adults Can Learn from 75 Years of Letters and Conversations with Kids
“Using lyrical prose and startling imagery, Marty Ross-Dolen tells the story of a life marked forever by a past family tragedy. This deeply haunting and tremendously moving work of beauty offers a rare and genuine glimpse into the way a heart can both break and mend at once.”—Bret Lott, author of Jewel, an Oprah Book Club pick, and Before We Get Started: A Practical Memoir of the Writer’s Life
“If ever there was a book written from and for love, with a hunger to know, to understand, and to heal, this is it.”—Abigail Thomas, New York Times best-selling author of Safekeeping: Some True Stories from a Life and A Three Dog Life: A Memoir
“How do we conjure our dead, especially if they left this world before we were born? Marty Ross-Dolen asks this question, and with this beautiful book, offers us a map. They are all around us, in each photograph, each saved letter, each thing they built. And what was built by her lost grandparents is iconic, part of the very fabric of America. With Always There, Always Gone, Ross-Dolen doesn't just conjure a tragic death. She conjures life.”—Nick Flynn, author of Another Bullshit Night in Suck City and This Is the Night Our House Will Catch Fire
“In a series of stunning vignettes, letters, and photographs, Marty Ross-Dolen traces a legacy of grief while confronting generational silence and loss with daring clarity and a poetic eye. The result is tender and wrenching, a compendium of longing. As with all the best writing, her work inspires and makes me eager to get on with my own. A dazzling memoir.”—Sonja Livingston, author of Ghostbread
“When Marty Ross-Dolen’s grandparents are killed in a terrible airplane accident years before she is born, the future is undone and then remade. The shattering will live on in Marty’s mother, reverberate through Marty, bend and twist inside the evidence of lives taken far too soon. With deepest love and capaciously poetic language, Always There, Always Gone offers proof of the sustaining power of language, even in the face of catastrophic loss.”—Beth Kephart, National Book Award finalist and author of My Life in Paper: Adventures in Ephemera
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Please note that this is a genre-bending, grandmother-mother-daughter memoir in which the author mixes 'wisps'—long and short form prose, photos, erasure poetry, and letters—to tell her story. Also, this memoir is about the aftermath of a collision between two commercial airplanes.
Available Editions
EDITION | Paperback |
ISBN | 9781647428914 |
PRICE | $19.99 (USD) |
PAGES | 240 |
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Featured Reviews

“Always There, Always Gone” is a captivating, thought-provoking and intriguing memoir by Marty Ross-Dolen. The Genres for this novel are Death and Grief, Grief and Bereavement, Memoir and Non-Fiction. There is some historical background that is included in this book. Marty Ross-Dolen is on a journey to learn more about her family. This reminds me of My Heritage, where people look up their family dynamics. The author’s grandparents, who were in charge of Highlights Magazine, were killed in an airplane collision. Although the author never met her grandparents, she notices how this has affected her mother, who was a young girl when they passed away.
The author uses pictures, postcards, letters , interviews, and her imagination to connect with her grandparents. The author discovers that several generations of her family went to a camp. There were musically invested, and shared that love. Marty- Ross Dolen also realizes that her mother needed closure and acceptance for what happened. I appreciate that the author uses dignity , empathy, and shows and grief, and love are intertwined with family. I recommend this thought-provoking memoir.

Always There, Always Gone is a heartfelt exploration of how a family tragedy can echo through generations. Through personal reflections, letters, and photographs, Ross-Dolen pieces together her family’s past and her own journey toward understanding. It’s a moving reminder of how uncovering family stories can lead to healing and connection.
A beautiful and touching memoir.

A fantastic, memorable story about mothers/daughters and the realationships they carry throughout life. I really dove headfirst into this one and didn't come up for air until I was done.

Superb recounting of the lives of three women: the author, her mother, and grandmother, in this interwoven narrative that follows the coming-of-age of three generations through letters, diaries and photographs.
Absolutely recommended. These women will stay with me for a long time, as I could see myself and my own family in the story.
Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the opportunity to read an advance copy in exchange for an honest review.

I can wholeheartedly say that “Always There, Always Gone” is one of my favorite books of the year so far. It is such a heartfelt and emotional story. At its core, it is the tragic story of a woman, Marty-Ross Dolen, who lost both of her grandparents in an airplane crash before she was even born and her journey of loss and grief, along with coming to terms with the gaping hole this loss has left in Marty’s life. I love the way the author described her relationship with her grandparents and the conversations she had with them in the form of different imaginary scenarios. Her story was heartbreaking and quite emotional, and I loved every part of this story. The author was so relatable in yearning to have a relationship with her grandparents despite not being able to physically do so. The writing was so beautiful and I really appreciate the author for sharing such a personal story with us readers. It is a stunning novel. I wish the author peace and happiness in the future.
Thank you to NetGalley for an ARC of this novel in exchange for an honest review!
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