Whether you are a single woman looking for a longterm monogamous partnership, or any woman looking for a well-written, entertaining and very humorous read, you should read this book. For most of my adult life, I have espoused the view that organized religion, education and the institution of marriage all work to the detriment of women and to furthering the interests of the patriarchy. That hasn't really worked for me, it only demoralizes, and angers. But everything in Dr Jennie Young's Burn the Haystack is the opposite: empowering, enlightening, and positive.

I first read about Burned Haystack in the New York Times in the summer of 2024, and immediately searched it up and started following on Facebook. A year later I took Jennie's Critical Discourse Analysis (CDA) class online. It's completely changed the way I use dating apps, saved me tons of time and effort, and still I loved reading this book for new success stories, simple explanations of rhetorical analysis and the complexity behind her straightforward strategies, and so! much! humor!

Thank you to NetGalley and Harper Collins Press for access to this brilliant read, that I already have purchased several copies of on pre-order. Release date is scheduled for April 7, 2026.

The book is everything I thought it would be: Wonderful! Clear, concise, and well-organized, it’s the perfect introduction to the Burned Haystack Dating Method and an excellent reference for those who have been studying it for a while. Dr. Young employs razor-sharp satire as well, so you might be surprised at how funny this is to read.
The testimonials prove that this method not only saves women from broken hearts and wasted time — but also literally save lives by helping us learn how to avoid abusive relationships of all kinds.
Even if you’re not dating, the author gives concrete examples of how the method can be used in all aspects of interpersonal relations from the workplace to hiring contactors and with families and friends.

I've been a member of the BHDM online group for almost two years and it's been an eye opening experience. The community is full of fantastic advice and amazing women. And somehow Jennie Young has encapsulated this space into a book. Easy to read and well written; I recommend this to any woman trying to navigate life with men.