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"I wasn’t able to tell him that I loved him!" "Did he think we had abandoned him?" "Am I going to die too, Mommy?" "Where do you think he is now?" "What about you, Mommy, what do you remember about him?"
Gramps is a short story for children, in the form of a dialogue between a mother and her son, that tenderly and lovingly deals with the loss of a grandfather to Covid-19.
For 5 years+. (also available in French, Spanish, Italian, Chinese)
A Note From the Publisher
Note to the readers:
This book was written on March 25, 2020 at the very beginning of the global pandemic, to support bereaved children (and their parents) of covid-19 as quickly as possible and especially free of charge.
This book is not a book about bereavement in general. It was created to respond to a specific pain and is really being experienced in a context of unprecedented upheaval of funeral rites and the lockdown. Consequently, the author made the voluntary choice of a hopefulness that neither the mother nor the child in the story take for granted, but who like to dream about it together.
Of course everyone is free to read this text, bereaved or not, but please keep in mind that this text is not a book about bereavement in general, and please put it into the context for which it was written.
This book was intended to be a picture book. Unfortunately, the illustration of an entire book usually takes 3 months to do. In March 2020, the painful choice was made to dispense with illustrations to still allow free publication.
Last important information: in this book, the word "willy" is written. Indeed, the mother of the story, to make her child laugh while evoking the passage of time and death that will come to her child when he’ll be at the end of the road, tells him that he will have "white hairs on his willy" .
If as a parent, for cultural or religious reasons, you do not use this term with your young children, we invite you not to read this book. Our intention is not to shock the reader but to help families.
Reviews by Health Professionals
"This story, profound and pertinent, helps the reader to deal with key elements relating to the concepts of grief and death: sadness, loneliness, memories, our own mortality etc.
It is a useful educational tool for a bereaved child, but also for parents who are looking for support when faced with their children's questions and emotions."
--Barbara Bienias , Clinical Psychologist, Pediatric Hematology Oncology Service France
How to grieve when your world is turned upside down? This story deals with the questions of a young boy, faced with the death of his grandfather due to coronavirus, with sincerity and tenderness. For young and old, Marion Donon has successfully written a story to help remember the happy moments, to help to pull through the present difficulties and to imagine a future beyond the grieving of a loved one.
--Chouchane Kieusseian, Clinical Psychologist - SESSAD - France
Congratulations for this book, a must-have tool for young and old, which demystifies death and gives it meaning with perspectives of the future and joy, which are necessities in life. It answers this existential question in a simple and concrete way, allowing all to accept their emotions without guilt, to grieve. Recommended in all unfortunate circumstances.
--Lucie Chédot, Doctor - France
A touching and sincere story of a conversation between a little boy and his mother, who are affected by death and grief in this so specific and painful situation that we are currently going through. It remind us of the cycle of life with accuracy, honesty and emotion. As a children’s psychomotor therapist, I recommended it to any family who find themselves in this situation. This book is a must-have in your personal and professional library."
-- Anne-Sophie Jaouen, Psychomotor Therapist - France