The Language of Emotions

What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You: Revised and Updated

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Pub Date 27 Jun 2023 | Archive Date 30 Jun 2023

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Featuring significant updates, the new edition of this beloved book takes readers to the heart of each emotion’s powerful gifts and messages.

Every emotion—even shame, anger, and anxiety—brings us vital information and wisdom. Emotions—especially the unwanted and dishonored ones—hold a tremendous amount of energy. “Too often, we either repress our feelings or let them run wild,” says researcher and educator Karla McLaren. “What many of us were never taught are the fundamental skills for honoring and understanding our profound, powerful emotions.” In this new edition of The Language of Emotions, McLaren takes us much deeper than naming or managing our feelings—she teaches us to listen to the messages within each emotion, reflect on their questions, and incorporate their wisdom into our lives.

Enhanced through more than a decade of research and teaching, this edition offers a time-tested emotional guidebook, including:

• How to safely feel and identify emotions—especially the most intense ones
• Practices for working with feelings—including setting boundaries, grounding, and the healing power of complaining consciously
• Building your empathy—five key skills for awakening your emotional genius
• The role of emotions in the resolution of trauma
• Decoding the unique messages, gifts, and insights carried by each emotion
• New to this edition: insights and practices on anxiety, an exploration of loneliness, and much more

Learning the language of our emotions can deepen our self-understanding, improve our intuition, and enhance our relationships. “Emotions aren’t problems to be solved,” teaches McLaren. “If you learn their language, your emotions can become an indispensable source of vitality, personal growth, and profound healing.”

Featuring significant updates, the new edition of this beloved book takes readers to the heart of each emotion’s powerful gifts and messages.

Every emotion—even shame, anger, and anxiety—brings us...

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This book had a lot of interesting and educational facts, and it really helped me. Gonna start doing things differently!

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This was a powerful book! It never makes you feel bad about any emotion! The stories along the way added to the books powerful ness. This book has great tips on how to process and express feelings! Very helpful and insightful!

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I’m not sure how/what to say about this book other then I should have read it sooner. I have bookmarked multiple sections to go back to - probably on a regular.
Karla McLaren really did an incredible thing by writing this and giving it to the world to read.
You never really understand how important your own & other peoples emotions really are until this - a total eye opening in all of the best ways. I cannot recommend this enough!

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The Language of Emotions : What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You is a book about learning the language of our emotions and using them as a tool to enhance and guide our lives. The book is extremely interesting and a big eye opener. It will change the way you see and feel your emotions totally. Instead of trying to change them and cover them up you will be curious as to what they are trying to tell you and how you can use them to improve what is going on in your life. It is a good read although I did feel a bit overwhelmed by the amount and depth of the information at times. A well researched book that everyone will benefit from reading.

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Firstly, I can see how some readers of The Language of Emotions might criticise it for being "unnecessarily long", or not understand the point of the book, or wonder "does anyone really need a book about emotions?" and so rate it lower than it deserves. I'm a survivor of extreme childhood trauma, living with C-PTSD, and I think this book was written for readers like me, who have been deeply traumatised and literally need to be walked through the names of different emotions, which larger 'family' they correspond to, the messages they're bringing, and how to work with them and work through them. I really feel like I wish I could have learnt about this in school, or in my family, or at any other point in my life. This is the kind of book I can read quickly, recognise the learnings will take some re-reads and some patience to integrate, and then use the book as a reference guide in the future. I can see myself dipping in and out of this book for many years, and working with it practically whenever necessary. I am grateful to the publisher and NetGalley for the opportunity to access an ARC. I would recommend the book to anyone who would like a supportive guiding hand as they try to learn how to heal and work through recovery.

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A guide to understanding your emotions, as well as a better perception of others emotions. For me, this was not a book to sit down and read cover to cover but more to scan over time. There are parts that I can relate to and others sections more suited to other individuals. There is a lot of valuable information and definitely a book I will reference in the future.

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