A HOW-TO BOOK FOR READERS WHO HAVE BEEN UNSUCCESSFUL OR WHO ARE ANXIOUS AND RELUCTANT TO ENGAGE IN ONLINE DATING.

“Dating, and certainly online dating can be intimidating and stressful. The challenge to make a connection with someone, build rapport and eventually meet in person so that you can truly understand your compatibility, takes confidence and a well-thought-out process. Keith's advice regarding how to best utilize instant messaging is a welcomed addition to the world of online dating and will serve everyone well as they aim to succeed in finding a long-term relationship.”—Michael Egan, CEO of Spark Networks(owner of JDate.com and ChristianMingle.com)

Does the Online Dating Process Make You Anxious, Insecure or Reluctant?

You’re not alone. Many single people experience anxiety, have insecurities and are reluctant to engage themselves in online dating. Keith Grafman believes success lies in learning to maintain balance and express authenticity in communications. The Art of Instant Message was written to help sincere people begin the process of forming a long-term, committed relationship. Readers include those who may have:

• Repeated, superficial relationships

• A history of dates with no chemistry

• Not turned dates into relationships

• No time for hit-and-miss online dating

• No faith in the online dating process

• Lost a loved one and looking anew

In The Art of Instant Message, Keith offers recommendations for optimizing profile presentation and early communication "ice breaker" topics. Chapters include actual instant message conversations that illustrate examples of:


• Building a social foundation

• Shifting balance

• Disarming emotional barriers

• Establishing levels of balance

• Controlling energy flow

• Developing rapport quickly


For the reader who successfully communicates via instant message, Keith describes the basics of communicating effectively within e-mail, and directing later dialog on the phone and in-person. Appendixes include lists of abbreviations and emoticons, suggested reading, online dating sites and punctuation for social communication.

When reviewing, read the book with the target audience in mind. Please note that this book is targeted at those who are reluctant to engage in online dating. Those who are shy, busy, luddites, reentering the dating world, and others who need help with the earliest form of online dating communication: instant message.

Kindle edition is $6.99.