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Choose Your Self

How to Embrace Being Single, Heal Core Wounds, and Build a Life You Love

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Pub Date May 06 2025 | Archive Date Jul 08 2025

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“A liberating guide for every woman ready to embrace her own worth, heal deeply, and find fulfillment from within.”—Wendy Valentine, host of The Midlife Makeover Show and author of Women Waking Up

If you’ve been waiting for your life to start once your relationship status changes, it’s time to rethink things and learn to choose your self first. We often relate to singlehood as a phase that should be rushed and remedied by finding a partner, rather than relating to it as our most potent opportunity for growth. But if the priority is on being chosen over being the one to choose, you’re more likely to keep ending up with the wrong partner. It’s time to break these old patterns and embrace single life with compassion. “One of the great advantages of spending time intentionally single,” shares expert coach and therapist Megan Sherer, “is having time to self-reflect, to learn from your past, and to experiment with new ways of being. Key word: intentionally.”

Sherer teaches how to fall in love with your own life and be unwilling to waver in the pursuit of a relationship as strong as the one you build within your self. Using personal story as well as potent reflection prompts, somatic exercises, and self-care practices, she shepherds you through the process of moving beyond attachment wounds to new levels of self-awareness to build a rock-solid foundation for your relationship with self. If you have an interest in partnering in the future, you’ll also discover how to do so in a way that allows you to remain true to your self. Here you’ll uncover:

Clarity in defining your desires

How your attachment style has impacted your relationships

Why you keep choosing emotionally unavailable people

What your patterns are and how to clean up old habits

How to manage your nervous system and heal your inner child

The magic of doing the things you thought you needed a partner for

It’s time to move from the disempowered experience of loneliness to an empowered version of singlehood—one filled with joy, adventure, play, passion, and all the other things that you thought you had to wait for the perfect person to experience. You are that person, and that time is now.

“A liberating guide for every woman ready to embrace her own worth, heal deeply, and find fulfillment from within.”—Wendy Valentine, host of The Midlife Makeover Show and author of Women Waking Up

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EDITION Audiobook, Unabridged
ISBN 9781649633941
PRICE $20.99 (USD)
DURATION 8 Hours, 37 Minutes

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Layout of the book was very nice and made it easy to follow along as a reader, especially as a reader with dyslexia!

Read it due to being recently single and it is quite motivating! Advice and general style of writer flowed well.

Thank you to NetGallery and Megan’s team for the opportunity to read this!

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Wow! I loved everything about this book. As someone who is NOT single, every part of this book resonated with me. Please don’t let the word “single” keep you from reading this book. Being a woman on a healing journey, this book spoke to my soul. I had many “ah ha” moments while listening.

This was one of the best self-help books I’ve ever read. The author did a great job making the book relatable and using everyday examples. The “try this” sections were practical and tasks people can actually do that won’t take up too much time.

I listened to the audiobook, and immediately ordered the paperback when I finished. This will definitely be a reread for me! The author also has a podcast I discovered after listening to this book called Well, Then.

Thank you NetGalley and Sounds True Audiobooks for the ALC in exchange for my honest review.

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This is a book to focus on your self as a part of self care and understanding to love yourself first. By "Choosing yourself first" you will find the path to the only love affair that you will ever need in life. The author goes into tips and tricks to try to regenerate the discussion you have with yourself to boost yourself as you would your best friend. This book is not revolutionary but does restate many thoughts in a different more easily to understand way. This book should be for everyone man, woman and child as there is so much that social media does to keep people in contact but it also only shows one perspective because people don't usually post photo's of people fighting, disagreeing or falling apart, by showing steps to really focus and love yourself this book helps to place focus on personal growth. Thanks to the author, publisher and Netgalley.

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Reading Choose Your Self felt like having a heart-to-heart with a friend who just gets it. Megan Sherer’s tone is so comforting and down to earth, but also full of wisdom and truth. I loved how this book didn’t just speak at me—it spoke to me.

This is such an empowering read for anyone who’s learning to put themselves first. It’s a guide for how to set boundaries without guilt, listen to your intuition, say no without apologizing, and really figure out what brings you joy. I especially appreciated how practical it was—it’s not all theory. The exercises and reflections felt doable and meaningful.

Whether you’re single or not, this book is a powerful tool for reconnecting with yourself and building a life that feels aligned and joyful. It’s a gentle push in the direction of self-trust and healing. Highly recommend!

Thank you to NetGalley and Sounds True for the audiobook ARC in exchange for my honest review

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Thank you NetGalley for the ARC audiobook in exchange for an honest review. The layout was really nice, made it super easy to follow the book. It opened my eyes to some aspects of myself I didn't realize I had. It motivated me to put myself first in most situations, guided me to heal old wounds and trust myself as well.

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Thank you to NetGalley and Sounds True Audiobooks for the ALC in exchange for an honest review.

Apparently I’m in my “powerful single girl era” because I’ve picked up a number of books on this topic lately. This one was really powerful and held some really great information. Yes some bits and pieces were a pretty surface level dive but there was just so much that anything deeper would have made the book too long and unwieldy. The author is also a pretty solid narrator of her own work. My only major negative though is that for me this book would work better as a physical book instead of audio. There’s too much to process, too many journal prompts and exercises, to keep track of aurally. I would have preferred to be able to highlight and annotate.

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I really found this book helpful in forming a better relationship with myself. Regardless of being single or not, it’s so important that we have a great relationship with ourselves and prioritize our wellness otherwise people won’t get the best version of us.

This book shows great examples of finding out how to love yourself from an author who got there herself. I really enjoyed the audiobook and could see myself returning to it for nuggets of insight.

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Even as a married woman, this book resonated with me. I truly believe that anyone, in all walks of life, can gain something from this book. The audio was done very nicely and it made for an enjoyable listening experience. I plan to buy a few paperback copies to save to give to my daughters one day! Thank you to the publisher and Netgalley for the ARC.

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