
Choose Your Self
How to Embrace Being Single, Heal Core Wounds, and Build a Life You Love
by Megan Sherer
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Pub Date May 06 2025 | Archive Date Jun 13 2025
Sounds True Publishing | Sounds True
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Description
“A liberating guide for every woman ready to embrace her own worth, heal deeply, and find fulfillment from within.” —Wendy Valentine, host of The Midlife Makeover Show and author of Women Waking Up
If you’ve been waiting for your life to start once your relationship status changes, it’s time to rethink things and learn to choose your self first. We often relate to singlehood as a phase that should be rushed and remedied by finding a partner, rather than relating to it as our most potent opportunity for growth. But if the priority is on being chosen over being the one to choose, you’re more likely to keep ending up with the wrong partner. It’s time to break these old patterns and embrace single life with compassion. “One of the great advantages of spending time intentionally single,” shares expert coach and therapist Megan Sherer, “is having time to self-reflect, to learn from your past, and to experiment with new ways of being. Key word: intentionally.”
Sherer teaches how to fall in love with your own life and be unwilling to waver in the pursuit of a relationship as strong as the one you build within your self. Using personal story as well as potent reflection prompts, somatic exercises, and self-care practices, she shepherds you through the process of moving beyond attachment wounds to new levels of self-awareness to build a rock-solid foundation for your relationship with self. If you have an interest in partnering in the future, you’ll also discover how to do so in a way that allows you to remain true to your self. Here you’ll uncover:
• Clarity in defining your desires
• How your attachment style has impacted your relationships
• Why you keep choosing emotionally unavailable people
• What your patterns are and how to clean up old habits
• How to manage your nervous system and heal your inner child
• The magic of doing the things you thought you needed a partner for
It’s time to move from the disempowered experience of loneliness to an empowered version of singlehood—one filled with joy, adventure, play, passion, and all the other things that you thought you had to wait for the perfect person to experience. You are that person, and that time is now.
Advance Praise
“Choose Your Self is a relatable and clear guide for embracing the relationship you have with the most important person in your life—you. I highly recommend it!” —Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, author of ’Til Stress Do Us Part
“Choose Your Self by Megan Sherer gives such beautiful, accessible tools to come home to your truest self and to fall in love with your life along the way.” —Ruthie Lindsey, speaker, transformational coach, and author of There I Am
“Choose Your Self is a breath of fresh air for all the women who have been choking on incomplete dating advice that leaves self-compassion out of the equation. This is a book for a generation of women who, more than anything, long to be seen. Megan’s words will leave you feeling lighter, yet somehow more whole at the same time.” —Parm K.C., author of You Will Feel Whole Again and Eggshells
“Relationships come and go… but the relationship to yourself always remains. Megan Sherer is both correct and insightful in her assertion that the relationship we have to ourselves is perhaps the most important one we ever have, and that navigating that with compassion, doses of self-care, and a healthy amount of self-worth is critical for developing strong relationships—first with ourself, before anyone else. I applaud Megan’s forthrightness in acknowledging the plight of the modern woman who is saddled with so much pressure and expectation, and giving her the freedom to choose what is most right for her.” —Alanna Kaivalya, PhD, author of The Way of the Satisfied Woman
“Choose Your Self is a liberating guide for every woman ready to embrace her own worth, heal deeply, and find fulfillment from within. Megan Sherer’s compassionate wisdom provides the tools to break free from societal expectations, nurturing the most crucial relationship we have: the one with ourselves. If you’re ready to put yourself first and build a life you genuinely love, this book is a powerful place to start.” —Wendy Valentine, host of The Midlife Makeover Show and author of Women Waking Up
“Choose Your Self feels like a warm hug and a wake-up call rolled into one. Megan beautifully reminds us that the love we are fervently searching for is already ours and begins with the person in the mirror. This book is not here to tell you that you should just be OK with being single—it’s about realizing that nothing from the outside can make you whole. You are already whole! Her words shake you up from the inside and rearrange the belief that romantic love is superior in such a way that both single-dom and partnership become extraneous when you are able to drink from the well of self-love each and every day. If you’re ready to stop waiting for life to start and ready to choose love, this book is for you.” —Samantha Chung, cohost of the Spiraling Higher podcast
Marketing Plan
Author campaign to her email, social, podcast, and membership communities (150k)
Promotion via author’s speaking engagements and affiliations with women’s entrepreneurial and college communities
Social media campaign including author videos for #booktok community
Promotion to Sounds True audience through social media and email newsletter (1M+ combined followers/subscribers)
Insights at the Edge podcast with Tami Simon (avg. 50k downloads)
Amazon advertising campaign, plus Amazon A+ page
National print & digital outreach with a focus on women’s interest and self-help media
Podcast outreach, focusing on women’s interest, mindfulness/meditation and mind/body/spirit programs
Book launch event (s) with tie-in with authors’ speaking schedule, when appropriate
Available Editions
EDITION | Other Format |
ISBN | 9781649633927 |
PRICE | $20.99 (USD) |
PAGES | 336 |
Available on NetGalley
Featured Reviews

I love the layout, it makes it so simple and easy to read! The name is catching but the story is telling. It really did open my eyes.

An excellent read for any and all readers! Author comes at you with both barrels and knocks you out of your shoes! Great job fleshing out all the characters. I give this book FIVE stars! Definitely recommend!

Absolutely necessary and important discussion on why women deriving their value and self-worth on romantic relationships alone is hollow and how to build a fullfilling, valuable, fantastic life without that as the focus. I enjoyed how the author covered so many varied topics and explained every facet of why our lives can be and should be full with or without romantic love or marriage.

Now this is the kind of book I wish I had read when I was a young adult because I always felt as though I needed to be in a romantic relationship and if I was single or going through a breakup, I usually felt like a failure. I love how the author drove home the point of creating and sustaining a beautiful relationship with yourself because that’s the first and most crucial relationship we will ever have in our lives. Thanks to this wonderful book, I had to do the work and go back to my past so that I could take a hard look at how my previous choices formed my current habits and how my turbulent teenage years had affected my mental health and the ways that I show up for myself, my loved ones and romantic partners. It’s totally true, when you choose to have a loving relationship with yourself you will have the kind of peace and happiness that so many people can only dream about.

CHOOSE YOUR SELF
BY: MEGAN SHERER
About 4.5 Stars!
As a mother of two young adult sons in their early twenties, but significantly as a married wife, I still found quite a bit in this non-fiction title, called, "CHOOSE YOUR SELF," by holistic therapist and women's coach the key points of this book is to love yourself. The Author, Megan Sherer is much younger than I am, so we aren't quite in the same demographic, but I could tell she was so much younger than I am, so some of her references reminded me when I was in my very early twenties. She did write quite a comprehensive book about insights she learned about herself by giving a lot of examples of her first four serious relationships starting with the first one that sounded lighthearted and sweet. I think that her second serious relationship was with a young man who sounded like he was the most critical of the four she describes as being the most toxic sounding to me. This had a lot of helpful information that I really could see as a book that I wish that I read when I was around twenty years old, but my self development has grown past a lot of her encouragement of dating or most significantly taking a year from abstaining from dating for at least that long or more which I don't see myself in that situation.
I did for a time put my children's needs always ahead of my own which I think for me is the kind of mother I always want to be. I did see for about five years where I went through a time when I went along with doing things that she described where women have to be careful not to fall into the trap of doing things that I really didn't want to do. Part of that is being a good partner when you're in a long term marriage. But I can see this author's point of not losing who you are by some of the examples she gives by being inauthentic to the point where she molded herself into who she was in relationships where she pretended to like Seafood in one of her relationships when she truly hates it. I think that I enjoyed the short section, and have read the book that she used in her bibliography about Attachment Theory. That's used frequently in the past five years in therapy, and although my education about it agreed with her definitions of the four Attachment styles.
I do agree that in order to have a solid foundation in a romantic relationship it's crucial to love yourself, before you get involved in a mature romantic relationship. There is a multitude of information about how you really need to heal your childhood trauma in order to be able to wisely choose a compatible spouse who is going to love you, you have to love yourself first before ever considering getting married. If you aren't in that place yet I wouldn't recommend even considering getting married. You have to be willing and have a strong enough sense of self and be willing to walk away from the relationship if "the one," doesn't share your core values.
I do recommend this book highly since there are a lot of self reflection questions at the end of each chapter so be prepared to do a lot of writing inside of your journal. When you are presented with a new area of the wealth of information presented in this book, the author will ask you to answer questions that she'll ask she also gives you plenty of writing prompts which I think we can all relate to no matter how old you are or what your current romantic relationship status is, there's always room to keep growing. I think that for a young woman of around thirty-three years old she does make a lot of sense when she talks about cleaning up old patterns, and I found plenty of interesting content except that being married for three decades which I plan on keeping that relationship in tact I can't spend a year of being single or more to work on just myself, since it's not realistic for my life circumstances.. But I did like the idea of that had I read this before I got married, and I think that I think that healing core wounds is another crucial point that a lot of the information presented here could save people from a great deal of heartbreak if that is something that gets done before you end up picking the wrong spouse.
I do wish that she gave anonymous clients who she's helped as a more frequent example, but maybe she had enough examples she could pull from her own past since she had used her own life experiences as examples throughout most of this book when bringing up as many topics as she does that make this book as one that I really think that everyone could find some part of themselves in the wide range of topics. It's not about blame if you grew up with either both or just one parent that didn't for some reason meet your childhood needs. That's a strong theme in this book in regards to it being crucial to be able to meet your own needs now that you're an adult. Our spouses aren't to be expected nor should they be put in the position to be expected to meet our needs that we get that done if we are in a healthy relationship with a secure spouse there are times when they fulfill us, but they aren't ever going to meet those unmet needs that we didn't get from a parent, that's why we are responsible for meeting our own needs as adults. If you experienced trauma of any kind as a child it's crucial to do the work to heal those wounds now, or hopefully before you get married and have your own children.
I'm glad that I read this since I have never worked as a Clinician, but do have a background in psychology that I really loved in College. I think that books dealing with psychology still interest me to this day. There are so many important facets that this book covers that there were not anything new concepts to me, but I still enjoyed reading it. I have a couple more that I would like to read, and I'm just going to wrap this up by mentioning a few common sense things that she covered that aren't likely to be new to you either like emotional availability, communication, asking your spouse for what you need from them from time to time, etc. I did really like this and do recommend it to everyone, but one more comes to mind that I still remember reading and it presented challenges that some couples face that can be challenging that I would highly recommend since the core theme was that usually when couples argue it is the same argument that they continue to repeat only with a different surface level or superficial topic that's new. But underneath it all it's the exact dynamics, and I read it a few years ago which I would love to read again, but I'm running behind since I read this after the Publication Date so I'm not going to have a chance. This one the focus is on you throughout the entire book. This one has to do with both you and your spouse and I'm recommending that one which is more complex. The title is called, "Secure Love," by Julie M. I liked the one about spouses a little better if I was going to pick only one I'd choose that. I still loved this and think it has so much to offer so you can read both since they're entirely different. Or you can pick one, or depending on whether you're not into psychology then you don't have to read either. I think I'm repeating myself now so I leave you with recommending both, but of course it's entirely our choice. 4.5 Stars!
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Thank you to Net Galley, Megan Sherer and, Sounds True Publishing for generously providing me with this Spectacular ARC, in exchange for a fair and honest review. All opinions are my own, as always.
#ChooseYourSelf #MeganSherer #CHOOSE YOUR SELF
BY: MEGAN SHERER
About 4.5 Stars!
As a mother of two young adult sons in their early twenties, but significantly as a married wife, I still found quite a bit in this non-fiction title, called, "CHOOSE YOUR SELF," by holistic therapist and women's coach the key points of this book is to love yourself. The Author, Megan Sherer is much younger than I am, so we aren't quite in the same demographic, but I could tell she was so much younger than I am, so some of her references reminded me when I was in my very early twenties. She did write quite a comprehensive book about insights she learned about herself by giving a lot of examples of her first four serious relationships starting with the first one that sounded lighthearted and sweet. I think that her second serious relationship was with a young man who sounded like he was the most critical of the four she describes as being the most toxic sounding to me. This had a lot of helpful information that I really could see as a book that I wish that I read when I was around twenty years old, but my self development has grown past a lot of her encouragement of dating or most significantly taking a year from abstaining from dating for at least that long or more which I don't see myself in that situation.
I did for a time put my children's needs always ahead of my own which I think for me is the kind of mother I always want to be. I did see for about five years where I went through a time when I went along with doing things that she described where women have to be careful not to fall into the trap of doing things that I really didn't want to do. Part of that is being a good partner when you're in a long term marriage. But I can see this author's point of not losing who you are by some of the examples she gives by being inauthentic to the point where she molded herself into who she was in relationships where she pretended to like Seafood in one of her relationships when she truly hates it. I think that I enjoyed the short section, and have read the book that she used in her bibliography about Attachment Theory. That's used frequently in the past five years in therapy, and although my education about it agreed with her definitions of the four Attachment styles.
I do agree that in order to have a solid foundation in a romantic relationship it's crucial to love yourself, before you get involved in a mature romantic relationship. There is a multitude of information about how you really need to heal your childhood trauma in order to be able to wisely choose a compatible spouse who is going to love you, you have to love yourself first before ever considering getting married. If you aren't in that place yet I wouldn't recommend even considering getting married. You have to be willing and have a strong enough sense of self and be willing to walk away from the relationship if "the one," doesn't share your core values.
I do recommend this book highly since there are a lot of self reflection questions at the end of each chapter so be prepared to do a lot of writing inside of your journal. When you are presented with a new area of the wealth of information presented in this book, the author will ask you to answer questions that she'll ask she also gives you plenty of writing prompts which I think we can all relate to no matter how old you are or what your current romantic relationship status is, there's always room to keep growing. I think that for a young woman of around thirty-three years old she does make a lot of sense when she talks about cleaning up old patterns, and I found plenty of interesting content except that being married for three decades which I plan on keeping that relationship in tact I can't spend a year of being single or more to work on just myself, since it's not realistic for my life circumstances.. But I did like the idea of that had I read this before I got married, and I think that I think that healing core wounds is another crucial point that a lot of the information presented here could save people from a great deal of heartbreak if that is something that gets done before you end up picking the wrong spouse.
I do wish that she gave anonymous clients who she's helped as a more frequent example, but maybe she had enough examples she could pull from her own past since she had used her own life experiences as examples throughout most of this book when bringing up as many topics as she does that make this book as one that I really think that everyone could find some part of themselves in the wide range of topics. It's not about blame if you grew up with either both or just one parent that didn't for some reason meet your childhood needs. That's a strong theme in this book in regards to it being crucial to be able to meet your own needs now that you're an adult. Our spouses aren't to be expected nor should they be put in the position to be expected to meet our needs that we get that done if we are in a healthy relationship with a secure spouse there are times when they fulfill us, but they aren't ever going to meet those unmet needs that we didn't get from a parent, that's why we are responsible for meeting our own needs as adults. If you experienced trauma of any kind as a child it's crucial to do the work to heal those wounds now, or hopefully before you get married and have your own children.
I'm glad that I read this since I have never worked as a Clinician, but do have a background in psychology that I really loved in College. I think that books dealing with psychology still interest me to this day. There are so many important facets that this book covers that there were not anything new concepts to me, but I still enjoyed reading it. I have a couple more that I would like to read, and I'm just going to wrap this up by mentioning a few common sense things that she covered that aren't likely to be new to you either like emotional availability, communication, asking your spouse for what you need from them from time to time, etc. I did really like this and do recommend it to everyone, but one more comes to mind that I still remember reading and it presented challenges that some couples face that can be challenging that I would highly recommend since the core theme was that usually when couples argue it is the same argument that they continue to repeat only with a different surface level or superficial topic that's new. But underneath it all it's the exact dynamics, and I read it a few years ago which I would love to read again, but I'm running behind since I read this after the Publication Date so I'm not going to have a chance. This one the focus is on you throughout the entire book. This one has to do with both you and your spouse and I'm recommending that one which is more complex. The title is called, "Secure Love," by Julie M. I liked the one about spouses a little better if I was going to pick only one I'd choose that. I still loved this and think it has so much to offer so you can read both since they're entirely different. Or you can pick one, or depending on whether you're not into psychology then you don't have to read either. I think I'm repeating myself now so I leave you with recommending both, but of course it's entirely our choice. 4.5 Stars!
Publication Date: May 6, 2025! AVAILABLE TO PURCHASE NOW! A HOLISTIC THERAPIST TAKES YOU ON AN INNER JOURNEY TO HEAL OLD WOUNDS WITH COMPASSION & INSIGHTS! SHE IS A GUIDE TO GIVING YOURSELF SELF LOVE! THIS HEALING IS NECESSARY SINCE FROM NOW ON YOU'LL LEARN TO RELY ON YOUR SELF MAKING US LESS FEARFUL OF HEARTBREAKING RELATIONSHIPS! CHOOSE YOUR SELF! :
Thank you to Net Galley, Megan Sherer and, Sounds True Publishing for generously providing me with this Spectacular ARC, in exchange for a fair and honest review. All opinions are my own, as always.
#ChooseYourSelf #MeganSherer #SoundsTruePublishing #NetGalley

I really found this book helpful in forming a better relationship with myself. Regardless of being single or not, it’s so important that we have a great relationship with ourselves and prioritize our wellness otherwise people won’t get the best version of us.
This book shows great examples of finding out how to love yourself from an author who got there herself. I really enjoyed the audiobook and could see myself returning to it for nuggets of insight.
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