Modern Friendship

How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections

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Pub Date 04 Jun 2024 | Archive Date 11 Jun 2024

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From the “New York Times friendship correspondent,” a definitive step-by-step guide to understanding the fundamental mechanics of friendship

Modern friendships can be painfully ambiguous. But they don’t have to be. Journalist Anna Goldfarb has your back. “It’s understandable if your friendships are floundering. You’re up against historically new forces that we, as a culture, have no precedent for navigating,” she says. With Modern Friendship, Anna shares a manual for understanding what is pushing our friendships to the brink and provides actionable advice for forming authentic, enduring connections today.

It’s never been easier to shed friendships, which is precisely why we need a new approach to keeping them strong. Anna argues that we need to update our approach to friendships in a way that accounts for the hyper-fluid society we live in. The key to forming a lasting bond is what Anna calls “Wholehearted Friendship”—proven strategies to enhance enthusiastic connection.

Blending keen insights, cutting-edge social research, and intuitive practical tools, she invites you to explore:

• Why modern friendships are so ambiguous—and how to get clarity
• How desire influences friend selection, why friendships fail, and how to hone your friendship intuition
• Mattering to others—establishing boundaries, being flexible, having fun, and setting up your friendships for success
• Tools for the tough times—exercises, prompts, scripts, and advice on keeping friendships active even when life gets hectic
• Practicing Wholehearted Friendship—how to be caring, curious, appreciative, and supportive to a friend in any situation
• Trying a 14-day Friendship Cleanse—two weeks of actionable advice to clarify your wishes in friendship and strengthen your connections, both old and new

Grasping the mechanics of friendships will liberate you from the prison of self-doubt. “Your friendships are precious. They’re vital. They matter. So let’s understand, cultivate, and harness their incredible power,” says Anna. With Modern Friendship, you’ll discover how to be a more self-assured and empowered friend to the most meaningful people in your life. Let Anna show you how.

From the “New York Times friendship correspondent,” a definitive step-by-step guide to understanding the fundamental mechanics of friendship

Modern friendships can be painfully ambiguous. But they...

Advance Praise

“When Anna Goldfarb writes, she makes you feel as if you’re her dearest friend. You’ll laugh, you’ll be charmed, and you’ll learn so much. In the confusing world of friendship, Modern Friendship is the compass we all need. Read it, and your friends will be thankful you did.” —Marisa G. Franco, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of Platonic

“Light bulb after light bulb appeared over my head as I read Anna Goldfarb’s wise and funny Modern Friendship. For all of us who feel like our friendships are too few, far-flung, or flatlined, her counsel is a decoder ring for deeper, closer relationships. This stuff really works, so do yourself—and your social life—a favor and read this book cover to cover.” —Ellen Hendriksen, PhD, author of How to Be Yourself

“Modern Friendship is poignant, fun, thought provoking, and inspiring. Through a compelling blend of research, real-life anecdotes, and practical advice, Anna Goldfarb provides invaluable insights on the evolving dynamics that define our friendships. Every single one of us would benefit from reading this book and engaging in friend-making with more intention.” —Shasta Nelson, author of Friendships Don’t Just Happen!, Frientimacy, and The Business of Friendship

“When Anna Goldfarb writes, she makes you feel as if you’re her dearest friend. You’ll laugh, you’ll be charmed, and you’ll learn so much. In the confusing world of friendship, Modern Friendship is...

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"Modern Friendship" by Anna Goldfarb stands out as an invaluable resource in the realm of self-help literature. Goldfarb delves into the complexities of sustaining friendships in today's digital era, shedding light on the challenges posed by the internet in nurturing relationships. Rather than leaving readers feeling hopeless about forming deep bonds, Goldfarb provides actionable advice on preserving intimate friendships as well as those with acquaintances. Moreover, she imparts essential skills on becoming an effective communicator and a supportive friend, ensuring readers are equipped to be there for their friends in the most meaningful ways. Thank
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"Modern Friendship" by Anna Goldfarb is a surprisingly informative book that is equal parts insightful and conversational. In a busy and mobile society it is easy to become disoriented by the changing nature of relationships. The insight and advice are spot on and practical. There are many suggestions to create opportunities to build friendships and develop more "friendquaintances." It’s a solid book that offers more than the title suggests.

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Modern Friendship by Anna Goldfarb is a great book on the power of friendships. It not only takes a view at friendships as a whole but also gives practical advice on how to keep those friendships thriving.

This book was a breath of fresh air for myself. I don’t have many significant friendships but the ones I have a cherish. This book taught me ways to keep those friendships alive with just a little effort.

I would recommend this book to anyone who cares about their friendships with others.

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I found this a very interesting and thought-provoking book to read. I think that as an adult in today's society, it can be difficult to manage and maintain friendships. For me personally, it can be difficult to discern the difference between friends and acquaintances. I'm also often torn between wanting to reach out to others, and waiting for them to reach out to me. Life gets in the way, sometimes people drift apart, and it's not always easy to determine which connections are worth fighting for.

This book highlights why friendship is important, why we feel the need to form and maintain friendships, as well as offering lots of advice, and some interesting exercises to try. It's quite in-depth, and n some ways, it felt quite intense to read, because much of its content resonated quite deeply with me. At the same time though, it felt like a comfort, a reassurance, and I'd say it's definitely worth a read.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publishers for a free copy to review.

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📖 31 / 100 in 2024
✍️ Non-Fiction (Relationships)
⭐️ 4 stars

Modern Friendship by Anna Goldfarb

for readers who enjoy ....

real-life stories, life-affirming friendships, giving themselves compassion over unanswered text messages, self-reflection, the important roles we play in each others’ lives, conscious communication, and fabulous friend dates

In a world where we aren’t taught relationship maintenance, books like this come in and fill the gaps. As I read Modern Friendship, I was invited to think deeply about my existing relationships and what opportunities I have to act as a friendship mentor for the young people in my life. The examples within the book complemented the information well and were paired with insightful and practical advice.

As someone who fits into the category of chapter 3 (having 100 friends but feeling like you have 0 friends) this book felt supportive and reassuring. I found it interesting to explore the societal reasons for the shifts in our friendships through this book as well as think about new ways forward. Funny and relatable without being preachy, I recommend this book to everyone who’s made a friend, kept a friend, or had a friend, sooo… all of us.

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